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Therapy is a great choice. It works, and I hope you make a commitment today to start. Most people find the idea of attending therapy with a therapist or counselor far more scary than the actual process itself. Here is a link that describes how the process works at our locations.
Our therapists are located in Lexington, Frankfort and Richmond, KY. See individual profiles of our therapy providers here . I hire our professionals personally and attempt to provide you with someone that will care about your outcome and treat you well. These are experts at counseling and therapy and provide services you will want to tell others about.
Our clinicians care, and you will know they are different in that respect. Providing therapy in Central Kentucky is much more than a job to our therapists. It is a profession, and a way of life.
Please let us help you today! Contact us here or at 859.338.0466 now.
Paul D. Dalton, MS, LPCC, CADC
In the most recent months I have watched people and family members experience the loss of loved ones. It is by far one of the most painful things we as humans can experience. Some of us try desperately to avoid this painful process at all costs. What we know about grief is, it is inevitable. It is not a matter of if we grieve but when. We all grieve differently. In realizing that most people have unrealistic expectations of their own grief process I wanted to share a few things that might be helpful. There are stages of grief defined by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross her book “On Death and Dying.” They are as follows: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. We will experience these somewhat in this order but can move in and out of these various stages. It’s important to recognize your feelings and deal with them throughout each stage.
There is no timeline for grief. The first year is tough. It’s the first time you are experiencing life events without your loved one. Be patient with yourself. Do things to memorialize and honor your loved one. Allow yourself to be sad. That is perfectly normal and expected. Take care of yourself. Rest, eat well and exercise even if you don’t want to. Do not make any major decisions the first year unless it is absolutely necessary. Ask for help and support from family and friends and if necessary seek professional help in dealing with the loss. Write about your loss. It will help sort through your feelings and will encourage the grief process to move forward. Lastly, remember that no matter how much pain you feel, you WILL survive this grief and loss.
Carrie Koontz, MSW, LCSW, CADC
Carrie Koontz works at The Offices of Paul D. Dalton, MS, LPCC, CADC in Richmond, KY. Her office website is http://www.counselinglexingtonky.com/richmond-ky-counseling-and-psychiatry/ and the office Facebook page is https://www.facebook.com/pages/Offices-Of-Paul-Dalton/344785342269140
Last night at my son’s baseball game it was dark too early. It starts to creep up my spine every fall. Don’t get me wrong, I love a nice fall day with crisp mornings and dry air. My body does not. My mind and physical self become enemies once again. My biology screams eat and sleep. The normal everyday cognitive side says work hard and have fun and eat and sleep normally. Living in Kentucky, allergies seems to work themselves into this mix too and before long, the body starts to win out. I think I know what a bear feels like right before winter! I just don’t think anyone will let me go to a cave for 5 months, although that is where a grumpy bear belongs, right?
Humor aside, Seasonal Affective Disorder, now Depression with Seasonal Component is very real in Kentucky and many states where the weather changes are dramatic. Here is an older article I wrote to refer to: http://www.counselinglexingtonky.com/2014/03/10/seasonal-disorder-holiday-blues-equal-therapy/
Remember the symptoms from WEBMD
If you get in trouble with seasonal depression or your mood is down, call us today at 859-338-0466 or click here for all of our offices in Lexington, Frankfort, and Richmond KY. We offer counseling, therapy, and psychiatry services to help you be happy in the colder months here in Kentucky.
Emotional health is an important part of our overall health and well being because
whether we like it or not emotions are a part of us. Taking care of our emotional
health is just as important as taking care of our physical health. When we are
emotionally healthy we responded better to stress and improve our relationships
and work performance. Since we can’t rid ourselves of emotions let’s learn how to
make them work for us instead of against us.
Here are 6 ways we might be encouraging our emotions to work against us:
1. Translating emotions as facts. Your feelings are neither right nor wrong
therefore they are not facts. Your emotions do not mean anything about you;
they are an existing part of you. If you feel unworthy, that’s okay; it doesn’t
mean you are it just means you feel that way. Reality check, most people will
feel this way at least once in their life if not more. Begin to challenge your
emotional reasoning and see what happens.
2. Invalidating or “shoulding on” your emotions. Emotions can be painful and
discomforting on their own, however sometimes we add to the pain and
shame by “shoulding on” our emotions. How many times have you told
yourself, “ I shouldn’t feel this way?” It might even sound more like this,
“You’re so stupid for feeling this way.” Since emotions are neither right nor
wrong they can’t effectively be judged or invalidated. You might not like
feeling depressed or sad; however telling yourself you shouldn’t feel that way
only increases feelings of guilt or even shame, which in turns increases
depression. And then, before you know it you are in downward spiral of
feeling bad and all that follows. Be kind to your emotions even if you don’t
like them. Try this: Say the following sentences and after each one take note
of how you feel and how your body responds. 1. “I don’t like feeling sad over
the breakup, I want to feel better.” 2. “I shouldn’t feel sad over the
breakup.” What did you notice? If you paid attention to the changing
sensations in your body you might have noticed your face frown and your
shoulders slightly shrug after you read the 2nd statement. Our body will
respond to our emotions, start to pay attention to how your body responds
when you “should on” your feelings.
3. Avoiding emotions. Let’s begin with a couple of general statements about
avoiding: 1. When we avoid things they seem to get bigger and even scarier
as our imaginations take over. 2. We avoid things we are afraid of. 3. We are
afraid of things we don’t know. So get to know your feelings in a
nonjudgmental and compassionate manner. Seek out information on
emotions and mindfulness techniques to help be more present with your
feelings. If getting to know your emotions sounds overwhelming or education
isn’t cutting it, exploring the obstacles in more depth with a professional may
4. Confusing thoughts as emotions. We often confuse thoughts as emotions.
Until you get to know more about emotions here’s a good rule of thumb:
‘emotions’ are one to two words and ‘thoughts’ are usually a sentence or an
incomplete sentence. So what’s the big deal if we mix them up? Here are
some potential negative consequences: feelings are generally more
unwavering, harder to work with, and harder to change than thoughts. So
when I say, “I feel that I am not good enough.” That’s really a ‘thought’ the
feeling might be “unworthiness.” Here’s where we can get somewhere…I am
most likely feeling “unworthy” because I am thinking “I am not good
enough.” It will be a lot easier for me to challenge my thought vs. challenging
my emotions. Start to pay attention to how your thoughts are contributing to
5. Feeding emotions. This one is difficult! Sometimes our behavior feeds our
emotions so they get stronger and hence more overwhelming. If we want to
change how we feel we might have to starve our emotions. Here’s how it
works: If I am feeling angry and I am mean to the sales clerk I am feeding
the anger. If I am feeling angry and I complement the sales clerk I am
starving the anger. If I am feeling sad and I keep my head down and avoid
eye contact I’m feeding the sadness. If I am feeling sad and I use all it takes
to keep my head up and smile at a stranger I am starving the feelings of
sadness. Of course it’s not going to be this simple, practice doing the opposite
of what you feel like doing if you want to feel differently. Start to pay
attention to how your behavior reinforces your emotions.
6. Not taking responsibility for your feelings. Here is another difficult one, so
take it slowly. How many times do we say, “ He/she made me feel…?”
Fortunately, no one can make us feel a certain way; we are responsible for
how we feel. I’m not saying that if someone slights us we won’t be hurt
because of what happened. I’m saying that someone’s behavior may
influence our emotions however their behavior does not get to control it. If
someone else is responsible for my feelings there’s not a lot I can do to
change it. Empower yourself by owning your emotions, “ I felt angry when I
was cut off in traffic,” instead of “he made me angry when he cut me off in
traffic.” Now say those statements again and pay attention to the tension in
your body, which statement increases tension?
I hope all this feeling talk has been beneficial. If you would like more information on
emotional wellness or would like to increase your emotional health our office will be
a great fit for you! Let’s start improving our relationships, stress management, and
work performance by taking care of our emotions; it’s worth it and so are you!
“Only the development of compassion and understanding for others can bring us
the tranquility and happiness we all seek.” –Dalai Lama XIV
Parenting stress can be very difficult to manage. If a parent says they never feel stressed out or frustrated by the kids, they are just not being truthful! It’s a tough job. Many parents feel like parenting is more demanding than their professional job. As a parent YOU have to be in good working order to be available the way you want to with you kids.
Here are some ideas for things that may help with stress management.
First, identify stress when it is happening. What are the things that intensify it? What are those that bring it down? Listen to your body when it is trying to tell you to slow down or to make different choices. Physical signs of stress can include: headaches, muscle tension, gastrointestinal problems, and intensification of existing health problems. Pay attention to those people in your life that may be giving you feedback about your stress level. Here is a place to find some more information about physical signs of stress: http://ezinearticles.com/?Symptoms-of-Parent-Stress&id=3304618 .
Second, identify and access your support network. Find others that understand what you may be dealing with and could offer advice or support. Plug yourself into groups and activities that help support you as a parent.
Third, take time for self-care away from your kids…and work hard not to feel guilty about it! If you take time to take care of yourself you will be a better version of yourself. You will be better able to focus on investing in the parenting that you can feel good about at the end of the day. Remember they are watching what you do and emulating you so you want them to learn to take care of themselves, be happy, and be balanced.
Here is some more information about the power of modeling for children: http://www.drrobynsilverman.com/parenting-tips/powerful-role-models-seven-ways-to-make-a-positive-impact-on-children/ .
If you need an uplifting video to help remind you of what kids needs to hear, check this out: http://youtu.be/Ss2gV_6AUEg?list=PLzvRx_johoA-YabI6FWcU-jL6nKA1Um-t .
Sometimes if things are too out of balance you may need a bit of help to get things back on track. That’s where we can help. Counseling can help you guide things back into place. We provide all kinds of counseling and would be happy to help you find your way.
You can reach us at 502-352-2208 or you can find information and schedule an appointment 24/7 on our website at www.CounselingLexingtonKY.com .
Take some time to reduce stress so you can be present for all those wonderful moments with your kids. Parenting stress does not have to create an impasse or block your road to having a happy family.
Laura Best, MSW, LCSW
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Clinician and Manager
You get to work feeling tired and irritable. Maybe you did not sleep well the night before or perhaps you have a busy morning routine. This may include getting your kids ready for school, packing lunches and dropping them off all before you begin your own commute to work. Whether you are a nurse coming in to relieve the night shift staff, bank manager opening the branch, school teacher getting your class room ready for the day it can be stressful. Inevitably things never go quite as planned and you get behind on the morning tasks before you have barely begun your day. Before you know it your heart is racing and you feel the tension headache starting to brew and you ask yourself, “How can I get control of this stress and anxiety I’m feeling? Managing stress of any kind can be challenging.
If you are feeling this level of stress and anxiety on a regular basis and you need help coping please call us today at 859-314-1281. Here are some strategies that can help you stay on top of any situation without letting it get the best of you:
1. Get plenty of rest at night (7-8 hours of sleep)
2. Eat a healthy breakfast to give you energy (limit the sugars and caffeine)
3. Take deep breaths as you start to recognize the increase in stress level.
4. Try some stretching exercises to help loosen tense muscles
5. Assess immediate priorities
6. Focus on accomplishments rather than uncompleted tasks
7. Once you have prioritized your tasks, complete the most undesirable ones first.
8. Set realistic expectations of yourself
9. Pay attention to negative self talk. Rather than, “Ill never get this done.” Say things such as, “Slow down, You can handle this. Just do the best you can.”
10. Ask for help when you need it.
Here are some helpful links to help you manage your work stress:
How to Manage Work Stress was written by Carrie Koontz, MSW, LCSW, as the manager of our Richmond Counseling, Therapy, and Psychiatry location. You can view the details of that office here : Richmond KY Counseling, Therapy, and Psychiatry
Let Us Help You Manage Back to School Stress!
We all know when it is that time of year again, right? School stress gets us all. Heading back to school has it’s ups and downs, but certainly produces back to school stress. Stress management skills are needed once again. It seems summer has just slipped away, and now relationships in many areas of our life are going to be put to the test from the early morning light right up to that last waking moment late at night.
Every year around this time our counseling professionals get many calls from families in crisis, marriages in need of counseling, and relationships that need therapy. If you know you need help now, please call us today at 859-338-0466 or Contact Us now. We love to help.
What causes all this stress?
Shorter Days-Fall is coming, and our bodies begin to feel it. This year, we have had unseasonably cool weather early. Our bodies react as if fall is already here. That means increased eating, sleeping, and more effort to stay awake, keep energy, and be productive.
Mandated Structure-School and work collide. Children and adults are quickly changing routines, wake and sleep times, school homework, after school activities, and many other conflicts of schedule, wants, needs, and energy. School requires more mental energy from all of us.
Change in Sleep Patterns and Circadian Rhythms affect us all. Back to school stress comes from not getting enough rest, but also from changes in how our bodies respond to climate, stress demands, wake up times, and many other factors.
Limited Resources with maximum demands sounds like a setup for too much family stress, right? It can be, but don’t let it. Here are a few tips to lower your stress as a unit and to maximize your potential to enjoy your family life and the people you love.
1. Stick to regular schedules regarding bedtimes and wake up times prior to school starting. Start the schedule at least a week ahead so everyone is used to the new times. The elements of the new schedule will still be new and take some adjustment, but everyone won’t be nearly as tired and cranky.
2. Keep the same wake up times on the weekend. Everyone wants to stay up later and enjoy more of the day, but if you sleep in on the weekend, chances are getting up on Monday will not produce your best results. Kids do better when they wake up at the same time. They might get a little less sleep, but they will wake up on time come Monday morning.
3. Skip the more caffeine problem. It will cause your sleep patterns problems, encouraging you to drink more and more, only to let you down later. Caffeine leads to anxiety, grouchiness, and dependence. Better to get moving, exercising 3-5 times a week for at least 40 minutes each time. When you feel tired, get going. It works quickly and does not produce the negative effects of caffeine.
4. One of the most important factors is to make commitments to activities, sports, work, social outlets, or plans than you can reasonably do while maintaining a balance in your family’s lives. Overdoing it is the number one reason people get stressed. Think your plans through, take your time, say no more, and give your family a chance to rest and enjoy down time.
5. Schedule time for married or relationship time in your life. Intimacy requires calm, private, uninterrupted time with people you love. Getting one on one with that person is the ultimate relationship builder, stress reducer, and family enhancer. You have a baseball schedule, school and work schedules, and appointments at the Dr., vet, and auto shop, right? Please, schedule time for love and intimacy. It pays off!
Our office provides family counseling and therapy and marriage counseling and therapy. We provide counseling for children and adolescents. Our professionals care. If you need help, please call us 859-338-0466 or Contact Us today.
At our office, we wish you the best of luck with the return to school this year. Most of us are right there in it with you! Thank you for visiting our website.
Here are some helpful links to assist you in managing stress and specifically helping with back to school stress.
Expanding Our Psychiatry Services in Lexington, Frankfort, and Richmond
In addition to our counseling services and DUI services offered by Paul Dalton and Associates, we are also happy to introduce the expansion of our psychiatry services to Frankfort and Richmond. There will now be convenient locations in Frankfort and Richmond and with the addition of these convenient locations, we feel confident that we can provide you the help you need.
Christine Dalton , APRN, offers a breadth of knowledge and experience to our psychiatry services in Lexington, Frankfort, and Richmond. Christine works collectively with other medical practitioners, including psychiatrists, physicians, counselors, and mental health practitioners to ensure the highest quality of care for each individual patient.
In addition to offering local Lexington psychiatry services, we are expanding our practice to include more appointments available with Christine in Richmond and Frankfort, KY. These appointments offer psychiatry services including psychiatric evaluations, diagnoses and medication management. Christine is experienced and educated and provides a great support system as you receive psychiatry services from our practice.
Experienced psychiatrists can offer many methods of treatment and assist in managing psychiatric disorders and diagnoses. Offering comprehensive psychiatric evaluations is important in correctly diagnosing and managing your mental health treatment plan. Your dedicated APRN will provide appropriate questionnaires, rating scales, and other measures to correctly diagnose your disorder. This is important for appropriately managing the condition. The assessment process for psychiatric evaluation can vary from practice to practice, but generally follows this assessment process .
Psychiatrists are medically trained and experienced individuals who enhance quality of life through proper psychiatric assessment, treatment, and rehabilitation of psychiatric disorders and diagnoses. Psychiatrists, according to the CPA , use appropriate measures to accurately diagnose and then use a breadth of knowledge and experience to determine an effective plan of treatment. We are confident that the experience shared by Leslie Maynard and Christine Dalton will effectively help manage your psychiatric disorder, and that our psychiatric services will greatly benefit you and your family.
Our three service cities, Frankfort, Lexington, and Richmond KY offer a multitude of beneficial local resources for the psychiatric community.
Bluegrass.org offers comprehensive psychiatric services including case management, technical assistance, consultation, crisis response and prevention, and affiliate support.
First Steps, a division of bluegrass.org, offers intake, assessment, evaluation, and service coordination for infants and toddlers at risk of developmental disabilities or delays.
Bivins Place of Richmond, KY, an affiliate of bluegrass.org, offers independent living for adults with severe and persistent mental illness.
Bluegrass Community Action Partnership: (502) 695-5615
Bluegrass Regional Mental Health Crisis Line: 1-800-928-8000
Bluegrass Regional Mental Health & Retardation Board: (859) 253-1686
Eastern State Hospital: (859) 246-7000
The Ridge Behavioral Health System: (859) 269-2325
Schwartz Chemical Dependency: (859) 246-7282
Our psychiatric services are offered in three convenient cities.
Why wait? Schedule your appointment today.
Or, contact us for an appointment by completing this form or calling (859) 338-0466.
Our offices in Lexington, Frankfort, and Richmond KY offer experts in helping children with mental health, individual, and family counseling issues, and family therapy. We work with younger children and adolescents and with their parents and caregivers to provide an outcome you all desire. While some practices treat adolescents and children because they have to, we do it because we love to! There is a difference in providers, we care, and it shows. Our clinicians use play therapy, PCIT -Parent Child Interaction Therapy, Family Therapy, and other forms of treatment to help. Call us today 859-338-0466 or contact us now!
What is child therapy?
Child therapy is a division of counseling and therapy services and provides the opportunity to integrate different therapeutic methods in order to assist your child with any issues he or she may be facing. There are different types of child therapy, including family therapy, group therapy, individual therapy, CBT, play therapy, and more. As your advocate, a child therapist wants to help your child and family reach the highest potential of well-being.
Child therapists are able to analyze your child’s situation, brainstorm changes and solutions that can be applied in your child’s life, break down barriers and build trust and rapport, and suggest methods of treatment or medication if needed.
Child therapists are needed to assist particularly difficult or misunderstood children get in touch with their feelings, attempt to resolve their problems, improve their well-being, and open up to someone about the issues they are facing. Behavioral problems and mental health issues or illnesses can become detrimental if untreated, and can have permanent effects if not addressed shortly after their appearance. The child therapist will work with the child to resolve issues and will also help the family to mend broken lines of communication and teach them to effectively work together as a team. Family counseling is sometimes offered in addition to child counseling.
Does my child needed child therapy?
The Surgeon General released a report in 1999, stating that 20% of children between the ages of 9 and 17 have a psychiatric disorder. Sometimes, these symptoms can remain hidden and irrelevant; however, being on the lookout for any of the below symptoms is important. All children will undergo hormonal changes as well as other changes, including mood, behavior, and interests, but precipitated events can lead to detrimental circumstances.
Many children will undergo hormonal changes, situational issues, trouble adjusting to changes, and other normal developmental patterns. However, if your child faces any of the symptoms below, especially if they are struggling with more than one, they may be potentially at risk. Recognizing symptoms and seeking treatment early is necessary in order to prevent any collateral damage.
Some symptoms that your child needs child therapy might include:
– Difficult learning or focusing in class
– Acting out, anger, violence
– Vandalism, theft, destruction of property
– Inappropriate sexual behavior
– Teen pregnancy
– Eating disorders
– Developmental delays
– Regression in toilet training or other developmental achievements
– Change in academic performance, failing grades, or missing homework if uncharacteristic
– Bullying or being bullied
– Withdrawing from friends
– Avoiding social situations
– Changes in appetite
– Lack of interest in previous interests or hobbies
– Depression or hopelessness
– Mood swings
– Unexplained absences or tardies from school
– Alcohol or drug use
– Frequent physical complaints such as headache or stomachache
Triggers for changes in your child’s well-being might include school stress (including text anxiety, bullying, trouble fitting in with others), family issues (death, illness, divorce), abuse, trauma, neglect, move, change of schools, and start of middle or high school.
Seeking child therapy for your young child or teenager can help alleviate some problems, as well as providing an outlet for your child to seek guidance without fear of judgment from family members. Child therapists can also detect any psychological disorders that might need medicinal treatment or other types of therapies to fully achieve successful results.
What should my child expect?
Child therapy takes many different forms. There are different types of child therapy, just as there are many different categories of adult therapy. Talk to your child therapist prior to the first setting if you would like more information on what techniques they will use.
Individual child therapy is a very commonly utilized therapy technique. Individual therapy is a one-on-one situation with the therapist and the child, in which they will analyze the child’s problems and address concerns, while together discussing the child’s potential to achieve a healthier well-being. This setting allows children to speak without fear of being judged by parents or siblings.
Family therapy is another option, and might be used in conjunction with other types of individual therapy in order to observe the family dynamic. Sometimes, the child’s behaviors or problems might derive from a lack of communication or stability in his or her family, and addressing familial issues in a group setting can be helpful for breaking down barriers and dismissing preconceptions, while strengthening the family unit and their communication skills.
Group therapy is another option for your child, in which he or she will attend sessions with other children who are similar in age and who might be facing similar problems. By communicating as a group, your child will be able to relate to others, understand that he or she is not alone, and feel comfortable communicating as there are others who understand and can possibly relate to their situation. Similar to family therapy, this can be used in conjunction with individual types of child therapy in order to maximize the effects.
CBT, or Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, is a technique in which negative thoughts or mindsets are broken down and replaced with positive or effective thoughts. CBT is also used to demonstrate and teach coping skills, relaxation techniques, stress management skills, and by bringing attention to negative thought processes in order to reconstruct them. CBT is usually performed in a group setting, and can assist your child with depression anxiety, and stress.
Commonly recognized as “talk therapy,” psychoanalytic therapy is also a potential method of therapy for your child. Talk therapy is usually not effective on young children who are unable to accurately vocalize and describe their emotions, but it can be appropriate if used with older children or teenagers. Talk therapy provides an individual setting in which the child therapist will have the opportunity to analyze the situation and provide guidance to your child.
Also common in child therapy, especially when dealing with young children, is play therapy. Play therapy is a common technique used for young children’s therapy sessions, in which the child therapist will use toys, dolls, art, games, or other play activities in order to provide a more interactive and therefore meaningful therapy session. Young children are often either uncomfortable sharing their feelings, or might have trouble vocalizing them accurately. Instead, play therapy provides a great alternative to talk therapy, in which the child therapist will be able to observe your child in a natural setting, therefore providing the opportunity to analyze your child’s behaviors without interruption. Play therapy can also provide the opportunity for the child therapist to build rapport with your child and ease into difficult topics through unconventional methods, such as using dolls to pretend, or playing games together.
See how play therapy works (video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6RkdZDf1jLY
Don’t hesitate! Call us today!
We offer many different avenues of counseling, and child therapy can help your young child or teenager overcome obstacles, stress, and pain. Please view our Counseling Process with any questions ( http://www.counselinglexingtonky.com/lexington-counseling-process/ ).
Don’t let your child’s problems fester and become increasingly worse seek help as soon as you begin to recognize warning signs. Call us for more information. http://www.counselinglexingtonky.com/counselors-therapists/ .